Well for those of you who know me, know that I consider myself a serial entrepreneur. With that being said, you will also know that I always have something going on. Last Monday, I did a soft launch for my latest project, which is BIG BAD RADIO! I know some of you are thinking, what is this woman up to now?
Well Big Bad Radio is an internet radio station. I went into this not knowing what to expect. It took long crazy hours for about two months, trying to get this together and get that right. So with that being said it is now up and running.
I’m actually excited about this new venture. In less than two weeks we have had close to 9,000 listeners. All of this just came from word of mouth and social media. I was surprised at such a phenomenal turn out. So for those of you that haven’t already, make sure to download the BIG BAD RADIO app which is available in the apple app store and google play store.
Have you ever noticed how many women tend to be the hardest on other women? Unfortunately, one of the bi-products of a sexist system is that women are constantly pit against one another. We are constantly told that the prettiest woman gets the prize—whatever that may be. This creates an environment in which women end up seeing other women as the enemy, and this is where jealousy, cattiness, and even downright maliciousness comes into play. We see this in the term “frenemies” which is most often applied to women. A “frenemy” is a person who appears to be friends with someone on the surface, but ends up doing things to sabotage their supposed friend’s happiness. I’ve experienced quite a few of them in my lifetime. These things can consist of small minor things such as telling them an outfit looks cute when in actuality it does not look good on them, to much larger things such as stealing that friend’s boyfriend. The “frenemy” issue is just one example of how women can, and often do, undermine other women, even those they are supposed to be friends with. This juvenile behavior holds us all back.
Today, women are doing and accomplishing more than ever. We are the fastest growing entrepreneurs. On most college campuses, women are outnumbering men. And women are making more progress in government positions. We are gaining ground when it comes to gaining recognition for our accomplishments, but we still have a long way to go. I fear that women will not be able to continue this momentum of moving forward unless we recognize that we are not each other’s enemy. Another woman who is working hard, and succeeding should not be a threat to you, but a sign of encouragement. It’s OK for women to compete with one another when it comes to working hard to get a better education, or to move up the corporate ladder, or other markers of success. However, when it comes to individual gossiping and badmouthing other women just to make them look bad, this is where we need to reconsider our actions and ask who this behavior is benefiting. My hope is to see more and more women encourage and root for one another to succeed, to break down barriers towards living in an equal society where we all are appreciated and respected for who we are. Sometimes I can’t help but wonder what makes one women go through such extreme measures to see another woman fail, causing a division in our sisterhood? Is it low self esteem? Is it the intimidation factor? Are they just mean girls? What do you think it is?
Unfortunately, in society today, respect is earned, not given. This includes all aspects of our lives, from working with colleagues to personal relationships. In dating, the same holds true—you show men how you are to be treated. Some women let little things slide in the beginning stages of a relationship, and those issues end up snowballing later on down the road,and then it’s just too late! The things that you put up with in the beginning of a relationship will definitely come back to haunt you, years from now. Thus, it is your responsibility to know exactly what you will and will not tolerate in a relationship, and to teach your partner to act and treat you accordingly.
When it comes right down to it, men are like children and they have to be taught how to treat you. I will give you an example. When first getting to know someone, I cannot stand texting as the main mode of communication. I let this be known up front, that I prefer a phone call over text message, that is if you really want to get to know me. If my potential suitor sends me a text after I have let him know this is now what I want, I do not respond to the text, at all. I will wait for him to call me and I will tell him again that I do not like texting and that a phone call is preferable. If this person continues to text, then all communication is cut off. This is not a matter of being rude or too stern, but an issue of whether the person you are trying to build a relationship with respects the boundaries you have set forth. If they cannot accept a simple request to communicate via phone call instead of texting, then you can bet there are a number of other boundaries they will end up crossing as your relationship progresses. Remember you as a woman are a queen and should be treated as such.
All women need to realize the power they hold in a relationship. That thing between your legs is a treasure and 9 times out of 10 the man pursuing you will do just about anything to get it or continue getting it on a regular basis. Now I’m not saying that your buried treasure is the ONLY thing a man wants, but if they are pursuing you in any form or fashion… he wants it. As a woman it is your goal to find that delicate balance between being cool, but not cold, to speak sternly, but not to be argumentative. You want to make sure your man knows what a prize you are as a whole and what a privilege it is to be with you. Don’t settle for less, because you are to impatient to wait for the best. Keep your heels, standards and heads high!
Remember it’s nothing wrong with whipping him into shape!
Since the early 20th Century, women have come a long way in terms of gaining rights, and making headway in positions of government. Women winning the right to vote in the 20th Century has led to more and more women not only making our voices heard in elections, but also becoming standout candidates at the local, state and federal levels of government. Currently, in the 113th Congress there are twenty women in the Senate and seventy-nine women in the House of Representatives. Altogether these women make up approximately, 20% of the total Congressional seats. While much progress has been made, women still have a long way to go before there is gender parity within the U.S. Congress.
According to research from the Institute for Women’s Policy Research (IWPR) is will take, approximately, another 100 years before we see an equitable amount of women and men in Congress. Unfortunately, there are a number of factors that still stand in women’s way when it comes to rising up the political ranks. Many women who seek political office lack mentors or people who are willing to step out and guide these women to have successful careers. Furthermore, sponsors are more likely to get behind male candidates than women candidates. In politics, it is most often the person with the most money who is going to win the votes. There are also many who believe women just do not seek out political careers. In some cases, this might be true, but there are plenty of women who have political ambitions. I am betting if resources were equitable for women candidates, there would be more women in Congress.
Within the last few years, if you pay attention to politics, you may have seen a few women making their voices heard. Most notably, Elizabeth Warren and Wendy Davis. Warren, formerly a bankruptcy professor at Harvard University rose to prominence in her fight against big commercial and investment banks after the 2007-2008 financial crisis. Warren currently serves as one of the two Senators for the state of Massachusetts. Wendy Davis, is a Texas state senator, and ran an unsuccessful bid for governor. However, Davis’ campaign did make national headlines as she fought to protect women’s right to choose and other matters. Davis is still heavily courting the female vote in her state for her next political campaign. Women are making progress, but it will take time and more support from mentors, current political leaders, and the public to ensure equity at the federal, state, and local government levels.
Congressional count: http://www.cawp.rutgers.edu/fast_facts/levels_of_office/Congress-Current.php